With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility

The superheroes I grew up watching were Superman and Batman, and they became my source of knowledge of what a superhero is: someone who has superpowers, withholds his identity, is nationalistic, and considers saving the community his primary responsibility.

Looking back, my definition of a hero was largely built around power and duty. A hero was someone extraordinary who used extraordinary abilities to protect ordinary people. Superman could fly and was nearly invincible; Batman had no superpowers but possessed extraordinary intelligence, resources, and discipline. In both cases, being a hero meant having the ability to protect others and choosing to do so.

I can say I am a superhero fan, but not a big enough fan to collect souvenirs and comic books. I do watch DC and Marvel movies, but they are movies I feel I can miss. Spider-Man: Brand New Day was actually something I was ready to miss since I had missed the last few movies. But my son wanted to watch it, so we did.

It was a long movie, much like the Odyssey, although I am certainly not comparing the two. I did like Spider-Man: Brand New Day, partly because it was not the storyline I expected. What I had in mind was the typical and traditional superhero movie: a protagonist protecting the city from an antagonist while keeping his identity hidden.

It was different this time.

This movie showed not simply a superhero, but a human being who, like us, someone who makes mistakes, gets heartbroken, and along the way needs to humble himself, admit his wrongdoings, and correct his actions.

That vulnerability is what made Peter Parker more interesting to me. Traditional superheroes are often defined by what makes them different from us: their strength, intelligence, technology, or supernatural abilities. Peter’s humanity, however, is precisely what makes him relatable. He gets hurt. He gets confused. He makes decisions that have consequences. He experiences heartbreak and disappointment. And like the rest of us, he sometimes has to confront the uncomfortable realization that he may be the one who is wrong. In that movie, he was.

Perhaps that is also what makes someone truly heroic. Being a hero does not mean being incapable of failure. It means having the courage to face our failures, accept responsibility for them, and choose to become better.

This brings me back to the famous Spider-Man principle: “With great power comes great responsibility.”

When I was younger, I understood this mainly as a call to use one’s abilities to help others. But perhaps there is something deeper to it. The principle assumes that power does not determine what is right. Having the ability to do something does not automatically mean that we should do it. There has to be a moral standard beyond our own desires that tells us how our power ought to be used.

Someone who has money, for example, can consider that money a form of power and feel a responsibility to share it with others. There is certainly nothing wrong with generosity. But even generosity requires wisdom and discernment. We can give without truly helping. We can provide resources in ways that create dependency, encourage irresponsibility, or fail to address the real problem. The question is therefore not simply, “Can I help?” or even “How much can I give?” but “What is the right thing to do with what I have?”

This is where responsibility becomes more than simply using our power for good. It requires us to know what good actually is. Power needs responsibility, but responsibility needs truth. Without a moral standard beyond ourselves, even good intentions can lead us in the wrong direction.

This is where I see the importance of objective truth.

If there is no truth beyond ourselves, then responsibility becomes whatever we decide it should be. We can justify almost anything based on what we feel, what benefits us, or what we believe is right at the moment. But if there is an objective moral truth, then our responsibility is not simply to create our own morality. It is to recognize what is right and have the courage to live according to it.

And this is where Peter’s humility becomes his greatest superpower.

His greatest challenge is not learning how to become more powerful. It is learning that his power does not make him right. He has to recognize when he is wrong, accept the consequences of his choices, and change his actions. That requires humility—the willingness to put truth above his ego and responsibility above his own desires.

Unlike other heroes who had mentors and sages, Peter Parker’s love from Aunt May and Uncle Ben was enough to help keep him grounded and guide him through his moral dilemmas. They did not simply love Peter; they gave him a moral compass. Their love was not merely about making him feel good or telling him that he was right. It was about helping him understand what was right.

That, perhaps, is what struck me most about the movie. We do not just need to grow up surrounded by people who love us. We need to grow up surrounded by people who love us enough to lead us toward truth—even when the truth is difficult to accept.

This made me think about how we raise children and young people. We often want to give them confidence, independence, and the ability to make their own decisions. These are important. But perhaps we sometimes forget that freedom without formation can become dangerous. Young people need not only the freedom to choose; they need the formation to know what is worth choosing.

They need people who will affirm them, but also people who will challenge them. They need people who will forgive them, but also people who will hold them accountable. Most importantly, they need people who will teach them that being wrong is not the end of the world. What matters is having the humility to acknowledge it, learn from it, and make things right.

Maybe that is what makes a real superhero.

It is not simply having great power. It is having the humility to recognize that power must be placed at the service of what is right. Great power requires great responsibility, but responsibility requires truth, and following truth requires humility.

When I was young, I thought a hero was someone with extraordinary powers who used them to save others.

Perhaps now I see it differently.

A hero is someone who, despite having power, knows that he does not know everything; despite being capable, knows that he can be wrong; and despite making mistakes, has the humility to accept responsibility and choose what is right.

With great power comes great humility

Toast to the newly wedded couple

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What you are about to read is my message to the newly wedded couple. The information I have gathered came from my mother, who apparently, according to her have only heard the story to the mother and father of bride.

I was asked to do this but declined because it should have been the brother of the bide. When I was asked to speak I declined 3x, they insisted.

A bit of context. After the wedding my mother has been telling relatives and people that the the groom bought a unit in Florence McKinley, she even shared a photo of the place to us. Which is impossible because the groom is a bellboy. This is not looking down but stating fact. The house does not exist at all, only for show, to cover up for what should not be known. Of course, in due time and diligence, I am sure that they can surpass that. On the opening of the business, she said that the groom open up a business. How can that be when she was the one who provided for the accountant and contractor, I was also a witness when the contractor called her. In one Chirstmas party, I was seated beside someone who is connected to someone who is there and recognized me and told me that my mother said that she has a share – big or small does not matter, what matters is that she denies having a share there. All stories she told people and my family where not asked but she volunteered.

She said those lies even to me and to the rest out of shame. In fact, she even fought my wife for their sake. She did not want out business to be known, she told my wife to send boxes of bread without our logo. Any sane person will not do that. We did not offer our bread, she was trying to buy. It is like telling Mary Grace to put it in a plastic bag without any logo. So much more happened in my diary. Sounds petty? No, this is not petty at all.

So all these are only an illusion. In 6 months, she gave birth. She got impregnated. Why do I even put this here? My mother has been telling everyone even without proof how good the guy is and here is the proof of irresponsible sharing. The guy is unknown to the family and was only seen on the wedding day.

All of the above was written after 2 years.


Clink the glass. Remember that the clinking of glass is a call to kiss each other. Tomorrow Japhet Gulmatico that is a call to wash the dishes and iron the clothes.

Good evening everyone. Are you all enjoying? I hope all of you are enjoying the night and the great food. Of course food is always delicious when free. Thanks to the groom and bride for serving us great food.

I’m Jeff cua Kyra’s eldest cousin from her mother side, tita jing. Kyra was the flower girl in my wedding when she was 7. She’s also a favorite photo subject when I was actively doing photography.

I have been married for almost 20 years and it’s truly a wonderful ride. The feeling is More like a war survivor. There are joys and challenges along the way but the bond gets stronger as you get through them. For the sake of those who don’t know It was my wife who made me say yes to her and until now, the only thing I can say to her is yes. The first time I saw her I knew i found the right one. Yes, she is The one who is always right. This also explains why I teach at the university level dun lang ako pwedeng maging tama. marriage at the end of the day is just 2 people who decided to Annoy each other for the rest of their lives. My tip: Japhet say sorry when you are wrong and when Kyra is wrong, you are still wrong.

I have a confession to make. I’m just trying to be calm because there was a misunderstanding. In the briefing earlier I was told that I’ll do the toast. All the while i thought I’ll be doing a roast. I had to rewrite my Speech.

4 days ago tito Brian called me and asked me, Jeff can you do the roast. I was confused and even wondered why I was asked to do the roast when it’s normally the role of the best man or the brother of the bride. Bakit mga hindi kayo nagtratabaho Dito? But judging by the way they look, they look drunk and busog. But since I love roasting people specially a groom, whom I just met today, I said yes.

I’ll be nice.

First an observation. You know I have been to many weddings but this is the first time I’ve been to a wedding where the couple decided to serve Redhorse extra strong. -lakas niyan ah, gusto ba nilang umuwi ng gumagapang yung tao? Then I thought, This is probably Japheth reminding Kyra of his extra strong love for her and knowing Kyra,this is her telling Japheth na malakas Ang Sipa niya.

If you haven’t heard yet, nung elementary siya binagsakan niya yung classmate niyang lalaki na nangloloko sa kanya ng bookshelf lang naman. I heard you love reading books Japhet. If I were you I’d stay away from bookshelves.

Often the family members especially kuyas of the bride would warn the groom. Wag mong sasaktan kapatid ko kungdi….but in this case Brad knows Kyra can defend herself dahil nung bata pa Sila, bugbog sarado si Brad. Ngayon si Erica na bubugbog sa iyo.

During Kyra’s debut sabi niya Ang gusto ko sa lalaki yung kamukha ni daddy. I looked at Tito Brian, naluluha. Ako din naluluha, pano na lang kung itake ni lord literally. buti na lang nilinaw ni Kyra, na ibig niyang Sabihin na kasing patient, prayerful, bait, sipag at respectful ni Tito Brian. Those are the things that I hear about Japhet. Palakpakan natin Ang mga magulang na nagpalaki kay Japheth. God loves you Kyra so he gave you what you wished for and probably more.

But Seriously Kyra i think you are in the arms of someone who truly loves you especially after I learned that Japhet has a devotion to mama Mary. Anyone who has a devotion to our mother is always close to Christ, respectful to mothers and women. I am sure, us, your family and everyone who loves you, we are assured that you married a Christ centered family man. (look at Japhet and tell him wag kang papahiyain Ang gaganda ng sinasabi ko sa iyo) –This was hyped to us by my mother.

Furthermore, Your lives don’t belong to yourselves anymore but to your spouse and children to be. This means you have to take care of your names dahil I-google lang nila Ang pangalan niyo at malalaman Ang pagkatao mo.

Now, on to my toast, please stand and raise your glasses. Let us all wish Japhet and Kyra a happy and fruitful marriage, May you bear and raise, healthy and god fearing children. May you both persevere in love. May you both put Christ in the center of your family. May you both, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, love and honor each other all the days of your life. And May your ups and downs be only in the bedroom.

Cheers!