A Day of Waiting, Watching, and Driving

Weeks ago, our eldest son Jaime told me he had a bouldering competition at Flowstate Gym in Pampanga. That Saturday, I drove there with Ingrid and Jaime’s girlfriend. We left the house around 9:30 in the morning. Just before leaving, Jaime mentioned that he barely slept the night before. He had a stomach ache, felt feverish, and had taken paracetamol earlier that morning.

Traffic was light, typical of a Saturday. Before heading north, we stopped at the Petron Starbucks for coffee and a quick meal. As we were about to enter, I saw my cousin Jigs preparing for his shift after his break. The café was crowded and the line stretched long — exactly what one expects from a busy roadside Starbucks on a weekend.

After the quick stop, we made another side quest at Lakeshore so Jaime could buy medicine. By then it was already 11:40. Registration was at 12:20, and the venue was still around thirty minutes away. We got back on the road and arrived just in time. Jaime got off first while we searched for parking.

Inside the gym, the place was packed with climbers, friends, and families. In between competitions, organizers were busy fixing and cleaning the walls. There was even this little girl, less than 10 years old, who was helping dust the holds. A few minutes later, the elite category was called and competitors lined up before the opening problem. They looked like people lining up for the cashier as they hold their chalk bags and water bottles. When Jaime’s turn came, I took out my camera, looked for the best angle and started shooting.

He moved carefully from hold to hold until he reached the top. Some problems he completed cleanly, others he missed. There was one red route he attempted three times and failed three times. It was not necessarily beyond his ability — he had climbed harder problems before — but competition changes things. Excitement and anxiety enter the body together. Timing changes. Confidence changes. Rhythm changes.

He did not finish last. In fact, he probably could have climbed higher in the rankings had he trusted himself more. But it is difficult to fault someone competing while not feeling his best.

Bouldering culture itself was interesting to observe. Climbers greet each other with a thumb handshake. Instead of the usual “Let’s go!” or “Come on!”, people shouted “Alez!” and “Ganbare!” whenever someone was on the wall. The atmosphere felt less hostile than many competitive sports. Even opponents encouraged each other mid-climb.

The competition ended around 2:20 in the afternoon. Had Jaime advanced to the finals, we would have stayed longer. Instead, we drove to Tarlac to meet my cousins. It was a short one hour drive from Pampanga to Tarlac. I swear that it felt farther before.

We ate at a place called Trattoria Atrove, an Italian restaurant in Tarlac City. A statue of Venus de Milo greeted guests near the entrance. The place was dimly lit, with a bar and a billiard table tucked into one side of the restaurant. We waited a few minutes before my cousins arrived.

The pasta was surprisingly good — probably an 8.5 out of 10 — though the food was secondary to the conversations. We were there more for stories, laughter, updates, and the familiar rhythm that relatives fall back into no matter how much time has passed.

We left around 5:45 in the evening just as heavy rain began pouring over the highway. Thankfully, there was no flooding along NLEX or Skyway. We arrived back in San Juan around 8:20, still early enough before Shana’s 9 p.m. curfew, so we ended the night with a quick dessert and drink nearby.

It was one of those long days that never felt rushed. A competition in Pampanga, coffee stops, medicine runs, relatives in Tarlac, rain on the expressway, dessert before going home. There is nothing extraordinary on paper, yet somehow full when stitched together.

Knowledge must lead to transformation


Albert Anker (1831–1910), The Village School in 1848 (1896), media not known, 104 × 175.5 cm, Kunstmuseum Basel, Basel, Switzerland. Wikimedia Commons.

I started my morning walk today at around 6:30am. Walking has slowly become part of my daily routine these past few weeks. There’s something about the quiet of the morning that allows you to think more clearly… or sometimes realize how unclear your mind actually is.

I brought with me the usual things: my phone, earbuds, and my rosary. I also have a small roster of podcasts I listen to during my walks, and this morning I tuned into a talk by Jeff Cavins about eating, exercising, and spiritual life.

But to be honest, I was barely paying attention at first.

As I walked, my mind kept wandering. I would replay random scenes in my head, look at shadows on the street, greet neighbors, talk to a cat along the way, and of course, avoid the occasional surprises left on the sidewalk.

It was only during the last few minutes of the podcast that I finally became still enough to really listen. And three ideas caught my attention.

First: knowledge must be trained into the body and the will.

Second: knowledge must become action, not remain as mere information.

And third: access to truth is not the same as transformation.

That last point stayed with me.

Many people fall into the trap of knowing but not doing. I fall into that trap myself. Sometimes knowledge becomes a kind of fortress. We convince ourselves that because we understand something intellectually, we have already lived it. But understanding is not the same as practice.

In fact, it is only when we seriously attempt to live out the truth that we realize how far we still are from becoming the kind of person that truth demands us to be.

I ended my walk with breakfast at Tropical Hut, but one thought stayed with me the entire morning:

The purpose of knowledge is not simply to make us more intelligent, but to move us toward action.

Because knowledge, after all, is measured not by how much we know, but by how much it changes the way we live.

Reflection on service, Love and Eucharistic Life

Fr. Serge reminds us that at its heart, service is love. For married persons, this is not abstract—it is lived daily. The work we do for our families, the sacrifices we make as husbands, wives, fathers, and mothers—these are not merely responsibilities, but concrete expressions of love.

In this light, true life is service.

We see this reflected even in nature: everything exists in a kind of self-giving. The grass feeds the animals, the animals sustain human life. Creation itself follows a pattern of offering. In the same way, we are called to live not for ourselves, but for others.

This is why Fr. Serge says that life is Eucharistic at its core. Like the bread in the Eucharist, life finds its meaning in being “broken” and given. In the celebration of the Eucharist, especially in the breaking of the bread, we are invited to remember: someone has given himself for me. And we are asked to “do this” — to live likewise.

Marriage, then, becomes a profound sign of this reality. It is a sacrament of God’s love—where each spouse gives himself or herself totally to the other, mirroring the total self-giving within the Trinity.

Yet difficulties arise when we begin to withhold ourselves, when we resist the call to serve. For the natural fruit of love is service, and it is precisely in self-gift that we find fulfillment. A husband or wife becomes most fully himself or herself not in self-preservation, but in self-donation.

Still, this kind of love is not something we can sustain by our own strength alone. This is why Jesus Christ came to dwell among us—so that we might love through Him and with Him.

When we pray, “Lord, how can we love more?” we must be prepared: the answer often leads us to sacrifice. For the way of the Master is the way of the Cross. And yet, it is precisely there—through grace, through union with Christ—that we discover the fullness of love and the true meaning of service.

My journey over the past few months has led me to a deeper realization: people who are wounded in spirit do not easily change, and it is not our role to change them. That belongs to God’s grace.

Yet they are not without purpose. They can become doorways that lead us closer to God—opportunities to practice kindness, understanding, and patience, while remaining steadfast in the truth.

When we choose to encounter even the toxic, the dishonest, and the mean-spirited with this disposition, something within us is transformed.

Maundy Thursday 2026

We woke up at 4:30 a.m. today for the Chrism Mass at Cubao Cathedral. It’s the Mass where the bishop consecrates the Sacred Chrism and blesses the Oils of the Sick and Catechumens.

The Cathedral, dedicated to the Immaculate Conception, is majestic—blue and gold with touches of red all around.

After the two-hour Mass, we had breakfast at Buttery & Co. with heads of different ministries, priests, and the former bishop of Cubao.

They said it was the only restaurant open in the area. Good for them—they captured the market. It made me think: opening during a holiday like Holy Week is a test of your brand. If you’re the only one open and people come, it means your business is needed. But if you open and no one comes, then maybe you’re not that relevant to your market.

After lunch, we went home to rest and do a few chores. Later on, I spontaneously decided to visit my cousin who works at Petron Starbucks along NLEX. We stayed there for a couple of hours until the sky turned fiery.

Golden hour felt like a small celebration. Families were in the parking lot having picnics—talking, laughing, just enjoying each other’s company. I thought it was very Filipino. Simple, practical, and meaningful—saving money while spending time together.

On the way home, I took the Marilao exit. Ingrid mentioned that a friend lives nearby. We thought of dropping by, but since it’s a solemn day, we didn’t want to disturb them. Instead, we went to Christ the King to pray. Since I still had some energy, we visited a few more churches, although we weren’t able to complete the Bisita Iglesia because I was already tired.

Thinking about it, I spent hours inside the car—talking with Ingrid, sharing stories, even venting a bit. Somehow, the car became our own quiet space of prayer—a kind of Garden of Gethsemane—where God listens to our thoughts, worries, and hopes.

Today felt like Maundy Thursday unfolding throughout the day—from the Eucharist, to sharing a meal, to moments of prayer even inside the car, and the journey from one place to another.

I journeyed with Christ, not in the usual way, but in a way that brought the sacred into ordinary moments.