Hope comes when you are at your weakest

I am currently reading Mistborn, a book my son suggested. Brandon Sanderson’s Mistborn is a high fantasy novel set in a dystopian world ruled by the immortal Lord Ruler, where ash falls from the sky and plants struggle to grow. The story follows Vin, a street urchin with latent magical powers, who joins a group of rebels led by the enigmatic Kelsier to overthrow an oppressive regime. Their weapon? Allomancy, a unique magic system where individuals gain extraordinary abilities by ingesting and “burning” specific metals. The novel delves into profound themes like betrayal, hope, friendship, leadership, and the weight of prophecy.

I have never been a fan of the fantasy genre, but I decided to give it a try after coming across this C.S. Lewis quote that kept appearing in my feed:

“When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty, I read them openly. When I became a man, I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”

At this stage of my life, I’m reflecting on reconnecting with my younger self—embracing a sense of wonder and relying a bit less on purely rational, humanly skills. I want to be more hopeful, like a child eagerly looking forward to a Christmas morning.

Taking a chance on a genre outside my comfort zone led me to a passage in Mistborn that deeply resonated with me:

“Our belief is often strongest when it should be weakest. That is the nature of hope.”

Hope is the expectation that something good or desirable will happen in the future. It is the spirit that provides fuel to go through challenges. But it’s not about positive thinking or simply trying to manifest outcomes. Hope is something deeper and more enduring. Emily Dickinson captures this beautifully in her poem:

“Hope” is the thing with feathers –
That perches in the soul –
And sings the tune without the words –
And never stops – at all –

And sweetest – in the Gale – is heard –
And sore must be the storm –
That could abash the little Bird
That kept so many warm –

I’ve heard it in the chillest land –
And on the strangest Sea –
Yet – never – in Extremity,
It asked a crumb – of me.

From a theological perspective, hope is a virtue that directs man toward God, sustaining faith and trust in His promises. Even Nietzsche, often regarded as a staunch critic of Christianity, suggests a kind of hope tied to self-overcoming and embracing life’s challenges.

The essence of hope is that it often becomes most evident in dire circumstances—moments of death, failure, or loss. When we’re only worried or anxious about a potential challenge, hope feels like a mere mental vision. But true hope, as Mistborn and Dickinson remind us, carries a profound peace in the heart. It is in the storms of life, when everything seems lost, that hope takes flight, revealing its strength and grace.

Wholly Human: Class #1

A couple of weeks ago, I signed up for a free course at UA&P titled WHOLLY HUMAN: Integral Anthropology. Without knowing much about the course, I was intrigued by its title, which ultimately prompted me to enroll.

Today, I attended the first session of this three-part series, facilitated by Dr. Celing Tiongco, a long-time professor at the university. The class was attended mostly by members of Dr. Tiongco’s prayer circle and other professors, including the esteemed Professor Emeritus Dr. Paul Dumol.

The course explores Integral Anthropology, which integrates philosophical and theological anthropology with empirical findings from disciplines like biology, economics, psychology, and neuroscience, etc. . Its practical goal is to offer a holistic understanding of the human person by drawing insights from various perspectives rather than relying on a single discipline.

One of the central discussions focused on humanity’s trajectory:

  1. Existence – Man’s origin .
  2. Humanization – Learning and becoming truly human.
  3. Flourishing – Living well in all aspects of life.
  4. Final Destiny – Which, depending on one’s beliefs, is either nothingness or, for Christians, salvation.

A key takeaway for me is the way this course reframes the fundamental questions we collectively ask about life: Who are we? Why do we exist? What is our purpose? What guides our morality? All these questions converge into one profound inquiry: What is the whole truth about man?

Another important insight is recognizing that humans exist in a tension between good and bad, possessing the freedom to choose. While this seems obvious, it contrasts sharply with today’s culture, where “authenticity” often equates to embracing raw, unrefined impulses—our untamed, animalistic selves.

The session also highlighted a deeply resonant truth: man is broken by nature. This brokenness creates a sense of emptiness, which we often attempt to fill with desires and longings. Interestingly, the professor shared a study indicating that this emptiness is universal, affecting both those with and without mental health issues. This brought to mind the timeless words of St. Augustine:

“You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you.”

I am looking forward to the next session. For now, we have been assigned some thought-provoking questions to prepare for our upcoming discussions.

Intensity vs. Consistency

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The self-help and motivational genre often emphasizes grand gestures, powerful emotional highs, and the pursuit of rapid transformation. This approach appeals to the desire for instant change, encouraging people to chase after intense bursts of motivation and enthusiasm. However, this intensity is often short-lived and can lead to burnout, unrealistic expectations, and disappointment when quick results don’t materialize.

In focusing on intensity, the genre sometimes overlooks the value of consistency—small, daily actions that build sustainable habits and gradually lead to long-term success. Consistency, unlike intensity, requires discipline, patience, and resilience. It’s the slow but steady force behind genuine growth, the kind that accumulates over time and stands the test of challenges.

This cultural shift toward intensity over consistency can lead to people continually chasing the next big motivational boost or life-changing “aha” moment, rather than committing to incremental progress. It can create a cycle where individuals become addicted to the highs of motivation but struggle with the follow-through, leading to feelings of inadequacy or stagnation.

Ultimately, true growth often comes not from momentary intensity but from sustained, consistent efforts—the quiet, often unglamorous routines that build resilience, character, and enduring success.

Toast to the newly wedded couple

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Clink the glass. Remember that the clinking of glass is a call to kiss each other. Tomorrow Japhet that is a call to wash the dishes and iron the clothes.

Good evening everyone. Are you all enjoying? I hope all of you are enjoying the night and the great food. Of course food is always delicious when free. Thanks to the groom and bride for serving us great food.

I’m Jeff cua Kyra’s eldest cousin from her mother side, tita jing. Kyra was the flower girl in my wedding when she was 7. She’s also a favorite photo subject when I was actively doing photography.

I have been married for almost 20 years and it’s truly a wonderful ride. The feeling is More like a war survivor. There are joys and challenges along the way but the bond gets stronger as you get through them. For the sake of those who don’t know It was my wife who made me say yes to her and until now, the only thing I can say to her is yes. The first time I saw her I knew i found the right one. Yes, she is The one who is always right. This also explains why I teach at the university level dun lang ako pwedeng maging tama. marriage at the end of the day is just 2 people who decided to Annoy each other for the rest of their lives. My tip: Japhet say sorry when you are wrong and when Kyra is wrong, you are still wrong.

I have a confession to make. I’m just trying to be calm because there was a misunderstanding. In the briefing earlier I was told that I’ll do the toast. All the while i thought I’ll be doing a roast. I had to rewrite my Speech.

4 days ago tito Brian called me and asked me, Jeff can you do the roast. I was confused and even wondered why I was asked to do the roast when it’s normally the role of the best man or the brother of the bride. Bakit mga hindi kayo nagtratabaho Dito? But judging by the way they look, they look drunk and busog. But since I love roasting people specially a groom, whom I just met today, I said yes.

I’ll be nice.

First an observation. You know I have been to many weddings but this is the first time I’ve been to a wedding where the couple decided to serve Redhorse extra strong. -lakas niyan ah, gusto ba nilang umuwi ng gumagapang yung tao? Then I thought, This is probably Japheth reminding Kyra of his extra strong love for her and knowing Kyra,this is her telling Japheth na malakas Ang Sipa niya.

If you haven’t heard yet, nung elementary siya binagsakan niya yung classmate niyang lalaki na nangloloko sa kanya ng bookshelf lang naman. I heard you love reading books Japhet. If I were you I’d stay away from bookshelves.

Often the family members especially kuyas of the bride would warn the groom. Wag mong sasaktan kapatid ko kungdi….but in this case Brad knows Kyra can defend herself dahil nung bata pa Sila, bugbog sarado si Brad. Ngayon si Erica na bubugbog sa iyo.

During Kyra’s debut sabi niya Ang gusto ko sa lalaki yung kamukha ni daddy. I looked at Tito Brian, naluluha. Ako din naluluha, pano na lang kung itake ni lord literally. buti na lang nilinaw ni Kyra, na ibig niyang Sabihin na kasing patient, prayerful, bait, sipag at respectful ni Tito Brian. Those are the things that I hear about Japhet. Palakpakan natin Ang mga magulang na nagpalaki kay Japheth. God loves you Kyra so he gave you what you wished for and probably more.

But Seriously Kyra i think you are in the arms of someone who truly loves you especially after I learned that Japhet has a devotion to mama Mary. Anyone who has a devotion to our mother is always close to Christ, respectful to mothers and women. I am sure, us, your family and everyone who loves you, we are assured that you married a Christ centered family man. (look at Japhet and tell him wag kang papahiyain Ang gaganda ng sinasabi ko sa iyo)

Furthermore, Your lives don’t belong to yourselves anymore but to your spouse and children to be. This means you have to take care of your names dahil I-google lang nila Ang pangalan niyo at malalaman Ang pagkatao mo.

Now, on to my toast, please stand and raise your glasses. Let us all wish Japhet and Kyra a happy and fruitful marriage, May you bear and raise, healthy and god fearing children. May you both persevere in love. May you both put Christ in the center of your family. May you both, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, love and honor each other all the days of your life. And May your ups and downs be only in the bedroom.

Cheers!

The lasting impact of this MILO BEST commercial

I was 10 or 11, fat and tall, when I first saw this commercial, and boy, I envied how he, Louie, dribbled that ball. I would make sure to watch that commercial every time it shows. I would have recorded it if only I could. I was already playing basketball but knew that I could still be better by learning how to dribble, so I asked to be enrolled in MILO Best E. Rodriguez, where Waltermart is now, with my cousin. When I got there on the first day, I was intimidated by the big coach who welcomed everyone, Mr. Jorge. He was huge, and his voice boomed when he spoke. He scared me to death. Nonetheless, I went through the drills and practiced at home. What I did not know was that we will be judged on how we do with the drills. On the day of the exam, I did not go out of fear. He personally called our house to look for me. I got scared and did not return. What does a 10 year old fat kid know, anyway?

I chickened out. I did not know any better at 10. No one told me to go back and show up. Later in life, I realized that the most basic thing in any endeavor is showing up no matter what. And it is more than just trying; it is committing and persevering. This is where I think the role of sports parenting comes in. But first, I have no bad feelings toward my parents because, to them, sports were more of leisure than character development. In my case, I see it as a path to learning discipline and fortitude while liking what we do. In other words, whether you like what you do or not, nothing is easy, so keep on doing.

This realization helped me apply such lessons to my children. I just encourage them to join competitions and be there no matter what the results are as long as they put forth their best effort. But of course, every best should be better than the previous best, and this is achieved through practice and perseverance. I sign them up and make them go through the struggle, with us on the sidelines as cheerleaders. Because the lesson is not about winning or losing; the lesson is in the process, the struggle, the people who are there to support, and the opponents who are also friends outside the arena. The winning comes later.

Forty years later, the lessons brought by this commercial still live: show up, and never give up.